Desire Adjacent: Homoerotic Friendships & The Self in Passing
Homoerotic Friendships, Compulsory Sexuality, and the Politics of Desire
In this week's episode, I dive into the murky, tender, and often misrepresented waters of homoerotic friendships: exploring what it means to desire without desiring and love without the language to fully name it. From childhood confusion to adult reflection, this episode unpacks how compulsory heterosexuality, compulsory sexuality, and the social scripts of gender shape how we understand intimacy, attraction, and the self. Through a carefully curated soundtrack featuring Mint Condition, Faye Webster, Laufey, and Kendrick Lamar, alongside references to West & Zimmerman's "Doing Gender," asexuality theory, and my personal memoir : this episode asks:
What happens when the world tells you what you should want, but your body and heart tell you something entirely different?
- 1:30pm Single To Mingle by Mint Condition on Meant To Be Mint (n/a)
- 1:34pm Solo by Frank Ocean on Blondie (n/a)
- 1:39pm Jonny by Faye Webster on Atlanta Millionaire Club (n/a)
- 1:44pm favorite crime by Olivia Rodrigo on Sour (n/a)
- 1:56pm Bored by Laufey on Bewitched: The Goddess Edition (Vingolf Recordings)
- 1:59pm You Can't Save Me by SiR on Chasing Summer (n/a)
- 2:02pm Noid by Tyler, the Creator on CHROMAKOPIA (n/a)
- 2:15pm Your Obedient Servant by Leslie Odom Jr, Lin Manuel Miranda on Hamilton (n/a)
- 2:20pm Alright by Kendrick Lamar on To Pimp A Butterfly (n/a)
- 2:25pm HOT ONE by Denzel Curry, TiaCorine, A$AP Ferg on King of the Mischievous South Vol. 2 (PH/Loma Vista/Concord)
- 2:46pm hey now by Kendrick Lamar, Dody6 on GNX (n/a)
- 2:49pm Georgia Peach by Latto on Sugar Honey Ice Tea (n/a)
- 2:53pm Thunderbird by Itchy and the Nits on Nudie Beach (N/a)
- 2:55pm Sorbet by The Hit on Heart And The Good Chin (thehithteband)
- 2:57pm Movey by Slow Pulp on Moveys (n/a)
- 2:59pm Anything by Sofia The First on Sofia The First (n/a)
